Welcome to my Blog: Surviving an Abuser

This is a compilation of my research on how to fix things in my marriage. Men and women are wired differently. Men look at rewards differently than women do. Women are more emotional, need to vent their problems and share with their spouse by talking. Men will want to fix the issue. Most men and…

I just recently, in the year 2022, realized that I need all 5 love languages. I have come to the conclusion that it is mostly because of my first husband, being with him since I was 16 till 38. How the abuse from him shaped all my needs, how I viewed relationships, and felt about…

This rock tells my story. You can see that this rock has had many years of abuse, been jostled around and rolled through the sands of the ocean. There are chips, holes and discoloration, yet this rock is beautiful, it has aged, yet gotten stronger over the years of its life. I am this rock…

I’ll start off by explaining the 4 non physical types of Intimacy: Emotional intimacy. Intellectual intimacy. Experiential intimacy. Spiritual intimacy. Emotional intimacy involves candid, authentic sharing of thoughts and feelings. It involves being able to tell each other your deepest fears, dreams, disappointments, and most complicated emotions, as well as feeling seen and understood when you…

After leaving a toxic abusive relationship, it can be very easy to fall back into another toxic relationship. Therefore you start looking for a safe relationship. Safe is good, healthy, and well, safe. What I have learned by finding someone safe is that, after time, they are not quite what the soul is craving. They…

I was that kind a child that always needed to have someone around. I had a sister until the age 6 and after her death I could not handle being alone. I would invite my friends to spend the night, and to come over and play. After church on Sundays I always had to invite…

                             POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER Are you having difficulty recovering from a traumatic event or events that have occurred to you or around you? Are you having Triggers and Flashbacks? These can occur while being in the midst of someone else’s abuse, watching movies or tv shows…

Own the things you have done or allowed in your life, don’t make excuses for yourself. Explaining is fine, everyone needs to “explain”, just don’t make excuses. Start to know your value and worth, invest in “yourself” to make the changes needed. Love you, look in the mirror and see the you that other people see. See the…