Welcome to my Blog: Surviving an Abuser

Sexual assault Sexual violence often occurs alongside other forms of abusive behavior from your partner like: physical abuse, emotional abuse, and coercive control. -Does your partner make attempts to cut you off from friends that don’t like him or agree with him?  -Is your partner jealous and get upset with the amount of time you…

Gaslighting is a form of abuse and manipulation in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in you, making you question your own memory, perception of reality, and sanity by using misdirection, contradiction, and lying. They may say things like: “you are being too emotional, you are being dramatic, you are imagining things, that never happened,…

Finding things to do that make you happy and relaxed is the road to a stress free life. Which is very important for you to do, even if you haven’t left your abusive partner. This is a list of the things I love doing and I find to be very relaxing to me: Adult coloring…

The abusive marriage I was in was based on immaturity on both sides.  I wanted to be loved and shown attention, he wanted to be taken care of, be selfish, and act like he was still single. I thought he was sexy and good looking, he thought I was plain and annoying. He didn’t really…

Everyone has some type of trauma in their life at one point or another. Learning to deal with that trauma is what gets you through to the next day, the next month, and to the point of no longer feeling the pain of that trauma.  Everyone’s trauma is “their” trauma, and healing from it is…