Welcome to my Blog: Surviving an Abuser

During my divorce from my abuser, I started going to a domestic assault class-meetings. The women would sit in a circle and we would go around the room talking a little about ourselves and how we came to be at the meetings. It became difficult for me as i sat and listened to very young girls come in and share their stores, then return only once or twice because they chose to go back to their abuser. I had also returned to my abuser many times over, so I understood why they would do it, and what they were feeling. 

What was hard, was because I knew these feelings, I knew how long it was going to take them to leave their abuser for good. They themselves would have to finally reach that a ha moment where they were no longer willing to believe that their abuser was going to change. They would have to reach that moment of enough is enough and I can’t continue on this way.

Only then will they be able to save themselves and their children. 

I knew I could talk till I was blue in the face, I could share all my stories and how long it took me to hit rock bottom, and still they would not truly hear me. 

It has to be your moment, your truth, and your time to change.